Achieving the Good Life

Achieving the Good Life

“Tomorrow I will live the life I’ve always wanted.” This used to be my mindset. It would still be my mindset today had I not changed one word. Today. Today, I will live the life I’ve always wanted. My hope is that after reading the below, your tomorrow becomes today, too.

It’s the start of summer and the midway point for the year. This is a good time to shed the cool, lazy months and reevaluate those 2018 goals. While we transition into a new mindset of summer fun, it’s important to make sure that our priorities don’t become obsolete. This summer, find the optimal harmony between work and life. Seek joy through relationships and have a strong persona of one’s self. We can so easily get caught up in the day-to-day grind. There are always moments where we wonder how are we are going to find time for friends and family, time for myself, or even enough time to sleep…

Here are 3 ways you can live a happier, brighter, more balanced life starting today:


1. Spend Time with Friends and Family

Spend time with people who care about you and lift your spirits. It sounds simple, but it isn’t easy. We have so many things pulling at us. We need to schedule our personal life just like we schedule our business life. If you are brave, track how you are currently spending your time… what seems to be the first thing that is cut when you are time-deprived? Yep, friends and family. We take for granted they will always be there as we rush to the next pressing item.

I love spending time with my family and friends more than anything, and I know you do as well. Even just hanging out with a friend you haven’t had time for and sharing experiences with them will make your day feel much more meaningful. Did you know that one of the top traits of people that live to be 100 years old is their strong, large network of friends? Sometimes, you have to step back from your busy daily schedule and think about how you should really be spending your time.

I once saw a rusty sign nailed to a tree on the side of the road that said, “Rotary club meets every Thursday 12-1.” I loved the fact that long before social media, there was a simple sign to inform community members about social events. So simple, yet so powerful. Every Thursday for decades the community would meet at the same location, at the same time. This sign inspired me to set up a monthly event with my own network of friends. At noon on the last Friday of every month, I now have a standing Super Friends lunch. This lunch gives us a designated time to connect and has evolved into a coveted tradition. I always make sure I’m there, no matter what the circumstances are. A few of the Super Friends even fly across the U.S. to attend this lunch, which shows how valuable it is to take time out of our hectic lives to catch up.


2. Focus = Happiness

When I focus on the important things in life, I am happier. What are you focusing on? Sometimes we need to shift our focus to experience joy, instead of success. Evaluate what’s out of place in your schedule and remove items from your to-do list that are preventing you from working on the important feats that matter the most to you. Plus, feelings of control reduce stress. Another way to help is to move items from your to-do-list to your not-yet-list. More on this here.


3. Hug 5 Times a Day

Texting and social media can sometimes make us antisocial. Ironic, no? Although these tools have made our lives more convenient, interpersonal interactions are important, especially with the people we love. Did you know getting a hug 5 times a day for 4 weeks increases happiness? And that you’re more likely to remember a person’s name when you shake their hand? Touching increases your levels of oxytocin; positive chemicals that give us energy throughout the day. This is why face-to-face cannot be replaced.

Also, remember to be thankful for the people that have carried you this far in life. A random act of kindness can go a long way, such as a “thank you” or a simple phone call. Gratitude toward others increases activity in our dopamine circuits, which makes social interactions more enjoyable.

Maintaining relationships and balancing different aspects of our daily routine will lead to a less stressed, more focused, happier life. And remember that your goals can work in harmony with your life. For example, I have a goal of only being away from my family for 52 nights during the year. When you schedule your personal life like your business life, you’ll soon be living the good life.

About the Author: Erik Qualman

Often called a Digital Dale Carnegie and The Tony Robbins of Tech, Erik Qualman is a #1 Best Selling Author and Motivational Keynote Speaker that has spoken in 49 countries.

His Socialnomics work has been featured on 60 Minutes to the Wall Street Journal and used by the National Guard to NASA. His book Digital Leader propelled him to be voted the 2nd Most Likeable Author in the World behind Harry Potter's J.K. Rowling. Qualman is a sitting professor at Harvard & MIT's edX labs.

His latest book What Happens in Vegas Stays on YouTube is a Pulitzer Prize nominated work.
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